So how’d you meet?

This is one of those ice-breaker questions to ask when you’re talking to someone who’s in a relationship. It means, “Where/when did you and your partner meet for the first time?”

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The video asks this question of a handful of couples. It’s nice to see a wide range of ages (from high school to middle age) and also two same-sex couples and a mixed-race couple. Would’ve been nice to see an elderly couple, too.

The article says that HOW you answer the question may be an indication of the longevity of your relationship. The evidence is just anecdotal, though.

Hmmm. I wonder about that conclusion. I think it might not be so straightforward as the article makes it seem:

“The couples who told their stories in a more withdrawn, negative manner were more likely to have split three years later, while couples who told their stories in a more expressive, open way tended to stick it out. “

Native speakers of English (and maybe especially New Yorkers, who I think make up most of the people in the video) tend to be more expressive and open than native speakers of Japanese. It’s part of the language and the culture. If you ask the same number of native speakers of Japanese the same question, I bet your results would tend towards the less expressive and more modest.

Try your own survey of your friends and relatives and see what happens!

By the way, I have a pretty unusual “How’d you meet?” story. Ask me about it in class 🙂


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